I remember reading on twitter "black girls attribute so much value and self-worth to their hair, maintaining it, controlling it, styling it that when I see a black girl that just shaves it all off I KNOW that's a bad b*tch" and wow, I've never read truer words. Recently, the natural hair movement has swept the nation, snatching wigs left and right but some have gone the extra mile in embracing their naturally beautiful bad selves and cut it all off. “Nappily Ever After” is just one woman’s journey of embracing her natural beauty.
To summarize, the driven and stunning Violet (Sanaa Lathan) has it all, the perfect job, the perfect man and always the perfect hair. After a strange turn of events when her long-term boyfriend doesn’t propose and tells her being with her was like a two-year first date (ouch!), things spiral out of control. One drunken night she catches a glimpse of her matted hair in the mirror, glances down at a razor and gets to work. Now, while the movie is predictable, it is so relevant for black girls today.
One scene that hit deep was a flashback of Violet as a little girl jumping into the pool after being coaxed by a white boy, once she jumps in and chemistry does its thing her naps come to life. The boy points at her head “what happened to your hair?!!” all the kids start laughing at her. Her mother gets her, they pile into the car and leave. Reflecting back on this traumatic memory Violet tells her mother “I wish you would’ve just held me and told me I was still beautiful….I wonder what kind of person I would be now if you had”
Every black girl can relate to the torture of being subject to a hot comb and heat for hours to attain perfect, slick, white hair. Our hate for our hair has been passed down through generations. Sometimes we wished our mothers thought they were pretty enough to think we were pretty. Luckily, we live in a generation of black women that are more confident than ever before. Confident enough to do like Vi and chop it all off. “Nappily Ever After” is a time for self-reflection for every black girl. How much are you willing to sacrifice perfection for confidence, for love, for real. So many friends hit me up to ask if I watched and they all cried about how much they could relate. Who knows maybe you can too? Now go watch!